Compliments from Clients

"You are quite extraordinarily wise and compassionate and have a calming presence.  ... my experience has given me the ability to recognize when someone has what it takes to really make a difference in people's lives"

— Michael L.

"You've really changed my life."

— Jennifer K.

"The skills you have taught me will serve me far into the future"

— Jim C.

"I am deeply grateful for the insight and clarity I have gained in working with Essrea; I am ready to face the world in confidence!"

— Regina S.

"Essrea is a phenomenal instructor!!  This was absolutely, by far, the best course I have taken at Regis."

Melody V.

"Thank you for your depth.  Your advice worked!"

Steven B.

Monday
Feb272012

Coaching vs. Mediation?

Coaching is a great alternative to mediation.  

There may be times when you are 'butting heads' with someone in your life and it is not the kind of relationship where you would engage in a formal dispute resolution process but it is critical that you learn how to communicate with this person.  These 'difficult people' in our lives could be parents, spouses, children, employees, co-workers or supervisors.  They may not recognize there is a problem and therefore would be unresponsive to your invitation to mediate a situation, or they may not be interested either. Oftentimes when we are in a position of lower power, the other person has no incentive to engage in mediation. These are just some of the many reasons we may wish to seek out a coach rather than a mediator.  

Individual and Specific Attention

A coach can work with us individually to better understand why the 'Other' continues to behave as he/she does and what we might be able to do to effect a different outcome.  A coach can help us strategize better ways to respond ourselves, so as to avoid the downward spiral that seems to prevade our communications with this particularly difficult person in our lives.  

Learn to Fish

Coaching offers an opportunity to learn techniques and tools that can help us in ANY conflict in our lives, not just the persnickety one we happen to be facing when we seek out a coach.  As the Chinese proverb says, "Give someone a fish and they eat for a day. Teach someone to fish and they eat for a lifetime."

Win-Win is the Bottom Line

The beauty, too, is that a coach will never make the other person wrong, knowing that we are all human and it is just a matter of learning how to work with each individual's unique characteristics.  Sometimes we have blind spots and just need help from someone who understands these sorts of dynamics.  

This is when a coach is helpful to have around!

Thursday
Jan262012

Unresolved Conflict Can Kill

How does unresolved conflict show up in one's life?

It is amazing how many ways unresolved conflict can show up in our lives.  Obvious are physical ailments.  Why is this?  Because we are actually holding our feelings in different parts of our bodies.  When we don't work through our feelings, we hold them in our stomachs, our shoulders & neck, our knees...you name it, once you start paying attention, you will begin to notice the tightness in different parts of your body.  Hold onto this long enough and you bet it will start to manifest as an ailment.  Expressing our truths & feelings maturely gives us the opportunity to relax, finally, and our body notices!  

Also you will notice that different parts of your life may feel 'stuck' or unproductive.  This, too, can be caused by internal conflicts we are experiencing that block us from achieving our highest goals.

 

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